Kink & BDSM: The community and events (webinar)

Many thanks to everyone who requested content on kink and BDSM, I am happy to have finally delivered a talk with insights on the community and events . We had great discussions and plenty of curious questions that kept us going further into the topics of the community and events. 


We wish to share with you the recorded and edited version of our webinar, and if you have not had the opportunity to take part in the live talk, we hope you would benefit from this video.

The feedback we had was great, and we would love to hear your thoughts too!

And should you be interested in booking a session with Leah, you can easily email her directly and discuss what you wish to learn more about and how she can help you. Alternatively you can book yourself a Free first introductory session here.



This webinar covers the following topics:


What are kink and BDSM? The kink community Kink and sex positive events: types, rules, safety, tips, etc.

Scroll down to see the feedback we had and the chat from our chat box.



I had such great feedback from people during the webinar and after it via email.

Here's what people said:


''Leah, thanks for the presentation. Really lot of good stuff and I am new to this so lot of helpful information.'' - D


''Leah, thank you for a very good and inspiring webinar tonight on Kink. It was really useful and I'll be looking out for future webinars'' - Robin


''Thank you so much for this insightful introduction to a new and exciting world for me! 😁''  - Anonymous in the chat


''Such great insights and advice! This webinar was priceless Leah. I feel a bit more confident now about approaching the kink scene in real life and enjoying being part of the community.'' -Anonymous via email


''Leah, thanks so much for this. I’ve learned more about how to explore my kinks safely especially munches which I’d never heard of and will definitely go to before I go to a party'' - Anonymous in the chat


If you were amongst those who did not get the chance to attend the live webinar, Leah would love to hear your thoughts on it! Please do email us with your feedback, it will be much appreciated.


Here is the chat from our chat box:

19:34:14 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : I’ve got no sound - even though my speaker test was fine! Is it just me?

19:34:34 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : is anyone else having sound issues?

19:34:42 From Leah Spasova to All panelists : oh no, let's explore

19:34:53 From Leah Spasova to All panelists : are there people that can hear me

19:34:55 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : Hi, I can’t hear anything

19:35:31 From Leah Spasova to All panelists : I am exploring what the issues may be

19:35:45 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : i can hear you now

19:35:47 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : I can hear you now

19:35:51 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : yes I can

19:36:09 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : please

19:36:24 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : thanks

19:42:57 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : So is a fetish a kink?

19:55:47 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : is it legal to hold kink events

20:00:16 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : thanks

20:05:58 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : Thanks for that tip about education. Very useful for me just starting out

20:07:22 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : Is tantric sex penetrative

20:08:44 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : or just touch

20:08:57 From Anonymous Participant - : I cant get the volume to work

20:09:34 From Leah Spasova to All panelists : can you hear me at all

20:09:36 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : ok f me

20:09:37 From Anonymous Participant - : M, check the audio setting bottom left corner

20:09:42 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : working fine for me thank you

20:09:45 From Anonymous Participant -: I can hear ok

20:09:48 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : ok here

20:09:59 From Anonymous Participant -: thanks might need to restart laptop

20:10:00 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : pleasure

20:10:05 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : Mine works fine :) I logged in through the internet instead of through the app

20:10:20 From Anonymous Participant - : You need to select the use computer audio

20:10:22 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : I had to leave and rejoin and then it worked.

20:10:22 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : try logging out and log back in

20:10:49 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : share some insights about kink in west London

20:12:20 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : do we need a permit for a private kink party

20:12:47 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : audio Is working now for me 🙂

20:16:03 From Anonymous Participant -: thanks will try munches! I’ve been to voyeur events and I loved it

20:17:41 From mo : do you host any events/workshops?

20:18:04 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : Check out the London Fetish Calendar for everything kink happening in London

20:19:59 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : you will find the calendar here: http://www.londonfetishscene.com/index.php?cmd=mktcalendar

20:20:23 From Anonymous Participant - : it would be amazing if you could do more events on pleasuring woman 🙂 I don’t mind oxford or London

20:20:26 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : when is your next Oxford

20:20:53 From Anonymous Participant -: London Fetish Scene Listings: http://www.londonfetishscene.com/index.php?cmd=mktcalendar

20:22:43 From Anonymous Participant -: I feel that kink is more about sex of the mind rather than sex of the body!

20:23:08 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : Do you have any recomended lady for lerning about pleasuring a women near oxford?

20:23:25 From Anonymous Participant -to All panelists : do u know of any pvt parties in London we can connect to

20:23:49 From Anonymous Participant -: try the Shh! workshops for pleasuring women/men, find info on their website: https://www.sh-womenstore.com/classes.html

20:24:05 From Anonymous Participant -: thanks k****e 🙂

20:24:35 From Anonymous Participant -to All panelists : thank you

20:24:41 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : what is the fit life url I just get a list of gyms🙂

20:25:10 From Anonymous Participant -to All panelists : I asked a question on the Q&A section...can you see it?

20:25:14 From Anonymous Participant -: I agree Jashine! the mind is the biggest sex organ! even though I haven’t done it yet my mind gives me very hot thoughts on rimming a female.

20:26:00 From Leah Spasova to All panelists : www.fetlife.com

20:28:08 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : Thank you for answering my question. I guess just go along get involved, have fun and see if you click with someone?

20:28:22 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : in a kink event how to approach someone

20:29:26 From Anonymous Participant - : Exactly, Leah, BDSM play takes a lot of negotiation with people you have built up trust with! That can’t be done in an instant (unsafe)…

20:29:54 From Anonymous Participant - : Has anyone heard of liquid love? sounds very sensual but hard to meet someone to go with

20:32:23 From Anonymous Participant -: https://london.eventful.com/events/lady-liquid-love-sunday-6th-october-2019-/E0-001-122417270-3

20:34:17 From Anonymous Participant - : I’ve just joined one like that

20:35:15 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : will there be a changing room

20:35:16 From Anonymous Participant - : same Grace! I go sometimes to a voyeur and exhibitionist meet to watch 🙂

20:35:33 From Anonymous Participant -: liquid love, is women only is this correct?

20:36:25 From Anonymous Participant -: i have a toy bag that i bring to play/club events, keeps all my toys, gloves, etc. ready and safe

20:37:09 From Anonymous Participant -to All panelists : should we avoid alcohol

20:37:59 From Anonymous Participant -to All panelists : does alcohol take away inhibitions

20:38:33 From Anonymous Participant -to All panelists : it’s ok

20:39:22 From Anonymous Participant -: they have 2 types of liquid meets, one is woman only and one is mixed. but you can only go with a PAL

20:39:39 From Anonymous Participant -: I don’t have a PAL to go with or would go as sounds so sensual

20:39:45 From Anonymous Participant -: thanks for the info mo

20:39:51 From Anonymous Participant -: your welcome

20:40:38 From Anonymous Participant -: When you’re SAFE and negotiations have properly taken place, you’ll lose your inhibitions anyway

20:40:43 From Anonymous Participant -to All panelists : will munches have that opportunity to share that with someone

20:42:18 From Anonymous Participant - : The site I joined has different types of chat groups. And when you connect with someone online, gives you the opportunity to discuss with the person. Ask questions - very respectful males who are not pushy

20:42:53 From Anonymous Participant -: what is that

20:44:15 From Anonymous Participant - : what site is that Grace? sounds really good

20:45:02 From Anonymous Participant - : how u break the ice in a munch

20:45:19 From Anonymous Participant - : No mean No, if someone does not accept it then walk away

20:45:33 From Anonymous Participant - : Its called Killing Kittensapp.killingkittens.com

20:45:38 From Anonymous Participant - : app.killingkittens.com

20:46:51 From Anonymous Participant - : The site is called Killing Kittens - that was typo sorry

20:48:18 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : ahh killing kittens charges £20 to join ☹️ it’s hard being a student

20:48:29 From Anonymous Participant - : ahh killing kittens charges £20 to join ☹️ it’s hard being a student

20:53:07 From Anonymous Participant - : Yes that’s true Mo

20:53:45 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : hope it’s real people

20:54:03 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : lot of fake profiles every where

20:56:15 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : do girls approach guys

20:56:44 From Anonymous Participant - : this is great advice for a munch, thanks

20:57:19 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : i agree really good advice Thank you

20:58:23 From Anonymous Participant - : I have no idea how I would ask a female if I can eat there booty 😂

20:59:28 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : there are planty of sites out there which are full of scammers if killing kittens vet the sign up and there are not too many scammers then it's good value to meet someone

20:59:30 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : is it ok to offer drink

21:00:38 From Anonymous Participant -: Manners is key in BDSM, and thought highly off

21:02:06 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : Same rules with drinks if you’re on a date or party

21:03:11 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : I love kissing, and fantasies about kissing is this kink

21:03:40 From Anonymous Participant - : More about safe words please

21:05:14 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : is penetrating sex in open view of others

21:06:00 From Anonymous Participant -: I’m gonna have to shoot off! it’s been a pleasure listening, thank you! look forward to future webinars and workshops 🙂🙂

21:08:29 From Anonymous Participant -: VERY good point about professionals. Despite your 15 years’ experience you might still be lousy!

21:09:50 From Anonymous Participant - : Thank you so much for this insightful introduction to a new and exciting world for me! 😁

21:12:08 From Anonymous Participant -: Leah, thanks so much for this. I’ve learned more about how to explore my kinks safely especially munches which I’d never heard of and will definitely go to before I go to a party

21:12:38 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : yes thanks Lea

21:12:58 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : Will the full transcript of the chat (not the audio) be available afterwards for those who missed the start?

21:13:10 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : (Otherwise, thank you!)

21:14:00 From Anonymous Participant - : thanks for a great webinar, enjoyed it

21:14:31 From Anonymous Participant - : guys feel free to connect with me😊 Deba

21:14:48 From Anonymous Participant -: I will definitely share with anyone who’s just starting to explore

21:15:14 From Anonymous Participant - : Thank you very much, Leah :) Great presentation

21:15:52 From Anonymous Participant - : Grace let’s connect 😇

21:16:47 From Anonymous Participant - : 😊

21:16:53 From Anonymous Participant -: that’s nice

21:17:09 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : HI grace i'll like to connect :)

21:17:35 From Anonymous Participant - : I’ll share my details and happy to connect

21:17:45 From Anonymous Participant -: lol!!

21:17:54 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : lol

21:19:55 From Anonymous Participant - : bye

21:20:01 From Anonymous Participant - to All panelists : 👋

21:20:02 From Anonymous Participant - : bye



We hope you enjoyed this webinar and we look forward to hearing from you, as well as delivering on more interesting topics for you!


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