There is a phrase people often lean on when they feel torn between staying and leaving—better the devil you know than the devil you don’t. It sounds practical, even wise on the surface, as if it reflects a mature understanding of risk, disappointment, and the unpredictability of life. And yet, in my work, I have seen how often this belief does not protect people, but rather keeps them anchored in situations that slowly drain them—relationships that diminish them, workplaces that exhaust them, dy

This is where many people leave therapy or coaching too early. They assume they have reached the destination, unaware that what they have reached is a transitional stage rather than the endpoint itself. What they cannot yet see is that the crutches, while life-saving, are still evidence of an injury that has not fully healed — and that remaining in this middle space often sets the sta

When couples begin to understand the deeper dynamics shaping their intimate life, the focus often shifts in an important way. The goal is no longer to force intimacy back into the relationship or to perform certain behaviours that are supposed to create desire. Instead, the work becomes something far more meaningful: gradually removing the emotional, relational, and psychological barriers that have accumulated over time.