One-to-One

Sessions 

Why choose one-to-one?

One-to-one sessions are tailored to the individual based upon their needs and wants. The sessions are always client-centred and personalised, with deep exploratory work towards personal growth through positive guided learning. They offer individuals the opportunity to explore the taboo topics of sex and relationships in an open manner, in a judgement free environment and with a trusted expert who would guide you to discover new ways of being in your life and relationships that can make you happier and healthier.

One-to-one sessions...

Help individuals to improve their social skills, confidence, self-esteem, resilience, ability to deal with difficulties, maintain good physical and mental health.

Help individuals to
understand themselves
and others better,
to have healthier and more fulfilling 
relationships with
the people in their lives.

Help with communication skills, mindfulness and self care, boundaries and limits, empathy and care in relationships which leads to increase in relationship satisfaction. 
 

Help with intimacy issues stemming from shame, guilt, traumatic experiences, inability to connect with one's own body and/or partner, joy kill routine.

Help raise awareness of alternative relationship models and sexual practices, such as open relationships or kink fantasies and educate on the safety and practical side of engaging in such prejudice, shame and guilt free!

Education, not therapy...

Most people wonder whether these sessions are like therapy or counselling. The simple answer is that they are not. Most people go to therapy when things have gone terribly wrong and they feel broken and miserable. But the focus of work in our educational sessions is not to pull you out of a tragic moment in your life and get you back on your feet, the purpose is not healing and recovery.

 

We come from a very different perspective, our purpose is to prevent you from ever falling down and breaking apart, our aim is to get you from a good place to a better place to the best place with yourself and your relationships. The educational sessions aim not to 'repair' you, but to upgrade you. We will work to get you to live your most authentic, happy and fulfilling life.


Knowledge is power and success, this is why many people invest tens of thousands in their education and training to improve their careers. And this is your opportunity to invest in your personal growth and become more successful and fulfilled in your personal life, relationships, sex and intimacy. We truly believe that we live to learn, and we learn to live better when we invest in ourselves!

You don't have to burn in order to learn...

Let's get you on the path to personal growth and happiness!

Introspection

As scary as it can be - it always is liberating and worth doing. Take time to learn about yourself, what you are actually like, what are your needs, wants and desires, what works for you and what does not - in every way: personal, interpersonal and sexual. Learn how you can better take care of yourself, improve yourself and grow from experiences. 

Others

Often what people say and what people do and want are very different things. And these confusing messages are like a dance without clear rules. Plenty of mistakes and toe stepping happens. Advance your understanding of how others are, what belief systems they are nurturing and what works for them in order to improve and future-proof your relationships with them.

Transactions

We are in constant exchanges of vastly different transactions with ourselves, others and the world. Find out how you currently initiate and navigate through your relationships and intimacy and how your way of interacting with people may be sabotaging very important relationships for you. Learn how to get better at communicating and getting those win-win moments more often.

Growth

Learn! Experiment! Experience! Repeat! 
This is how it's done!
Take your learning experience and let it carry you in your next steps towards positive growth and change, experiment with new ways of being, of doing, of living - that are authentic to you and make you happier and more fulfilled. 

How would we work?

One-to-one sessions are meant to work according to your preferences, convenience and style of work. You may wish to bring up certain questions or things you want to learn more about and improve on, or you may feel lost and unsure of what you need in order to grow and improve yourself and your relationships. Whichever it is, we will reflect on it all, walk down some memory lanes, explore your ideas about sex and relationships and begin the learning journey in an organic and flowing way, never forgetting these are your sessions and you are in power to lead your experience and growth. 

Timing

Sessions take 60 minutes each. Clients can book flexible sessions during working week hours, evenings and even on Saturdays.

Location

Online appointments are available via Zoom or Google Meet. Phone calls are also an option.
In person sessions are available for clients based in Oxford, UK. 

Sessions

Whether you have a clear goal or wish to grow with the flow, all sessions are meant to empower you with life-changing knowledge and understanding of life, sex and everything in between. 

Homework

Yes, you read this right. Homework can take many (non-boring) forms and is an advised on part of the growth experience. Yet, no homework is ever mandatory and you can choose whether you wish to do it or not. 

Leah Spasova

Leah Spasova

Social psychologist
Sex and Relationships Educator

About Leah

 My great passion for understanding and discussing most taboo topics, especially those around sexuality and relationships goes way back to my pre-teen years when knowledge was the one thing that no one could deny me or keep me away from. Considering my severe curiosity and easy access to books and the internet I did dive in deep in every possible controversial question and taboo topic I could.

So I have been geeking out on these topics for longer than most people would consider 'normal', but that's okay, since the knowledge and understanding I have accumulated over the years of consistent and never-ending exploration and study is what got me here - as a sex and relationship educator. 

Working with me

I specialise in the psycho-social aspect of sex and relationships and work predominantly with adults,
most often with single cis gender men and women. 

I help individuals embark on a journey to self-discovery, awareness, acceptance and authentic expression.  

My aim is to educate and empower my clients with knowledge and understanding of their chosen topics and concepts in order to help them make better informed choices. Choices that will lead them to happier, more open, pleasure filled and positive sexual expression and experiences, as well as relationships with themselves and others. 

My work is informed by the social sciences, yet I also utilise knowledge from other fields of life, science and research, including but not limited to philosophy, history, ancient wisdom, economy and beyond.

I felt like I have to know it all and too proud to ask questions. That made me inadequate and I struggled with women because I did  not actually know even fundamental things about sex and relationships.

M,32

In my culture, we don't talk about sex and relationships. I have zero experience and felt like even knowing things will make me bad. There is nothing shameful or bad to want to be educated!

I feel safer and empowered now!

F, 22

Leah is so easy to talk to and open up to! 
She made me feel safe and not judged,
in a way I have not felt before.

She helped me learn so much about myself, my needs, my body, my relationships.

F, 36

I thought there is something wrong with me and that my sex life is dying. I was reluctant to go to my GP or therapy. So I am so glad I met Leah when I did. The insights and education she gave me are priceless.
I am not damaged or dysfunctional, I simply had to make changes that I didn't even know were needed and affected me so badly.

M, 27

Leah's least favourite thing to hear is
''I wish I had known this earlier'', but it is true. Thank you Leah for you have changed my life in the most amazing way!

M,44

Testimonials

Choosing or building your program

Clients can choose a specific program, build their own or Grow With The Flow in each session. 

We offer Programs which help individuals with a specific aspect of their lives. The Programs are created using selected content and have clear aims and outcomes from the start.

Clients can also bring up topics and concepts they wish to learn more about and thus create their learning journey with clear aims and goals that are 100% tailored to their preferences.

Our Grow With The Flow option is for those who wish to embark on a growth journey, but may not have a clear idea on what they would like to focus and expand their knowledge on.

Clients have the opportunity to discuss their interests and options during their free introductory session.

Programs

Our Programs are dedicated to help individuals grow their understanding and skills set by working through a well chosen set of learning content and materials.

  • Know Yourself

    Designed for those looking to understand what works for them in life and their relationships.


    We can go through life without ever stopping to learn and reflect on why things are the way they are in our relationships with ourselves and others. Therefore this program is aimed at helping individuals embark on a self exploration journey. This guided path to growth helps you identify and understand your needs and wants, conditions, boundaries, limits, deal breakers and more.

    This program will help you explore and learn about:

    • Yourself

    • Your tendencies and patterns of thought and behaviour in the context of relationships

    • What works for you in relationships and what your deal breakers are 

    • How to building your boundaries and limits with people

    • How to meet people and date in ways that are more aligned with your style

    • How to build healthy relationships and maintain them

    • Your understanding of relationship failure and success and whether these limit you

    • Your sexual personality and what you need in intimate encounters and relationships

    • How to improve your communication skills 

    • How to ensure safe yet hot intimate experiences

    • Why you may struggle with sex(uality) and what you can do about it - from anxiety and shame to difficulty with arousal and orgasm

    • And more...  

  • Alternative models of relationships

    Designed for those tired or bored by the status quo relationship models, seeking to explore other ways of having healthy and passionate relationships.
     

    We grow up with ideas about what relationships have to look like and how we need to play the ‘game’. Yet the common scripts we are expected to follow are often not for us, and at some point we need to acknowledge this and seek to learn about the alternative, more suitable for us rules of the game.

    This program will help you explore and learn about:

    • The different types of open relationships

    • Where and how to meet polyamorous people: community and dating

    • Establishing which relationship model would work for you best

    • Your values, patterns and yourself in the context of relationships

    • How to create, communicate and maintain your boundaries and limits

    • How to cope with feelings of jealousy and nurture compersion in your open relationships

    • How polyamory can fit well with a family with children

    • How a relationship can transition from monogamous to open

    • How power (imbalance)  plays a role in relationships

    • When open relationship dynamics can turn unequal, unfair and even toxic

    • And more...   

  • Having a healthy relationship after the relationship

    Designed to help ex-partners rebuild a healthy relationship after the break up.

     

    This program is suitable for those who want to learn how to establish healthy relationships with ex-partners. Whether you want to do this for the sake of your children or in honour of your time spent together, the journey away from hurt, dissolution, anger and regrets is extremely powerful.

    This program will help you explore and learn how:
     

    • The relationship between you can be re-modelled and become an amazing opportunity to grow and learn

    • Healthy relationships can be build not despite, but because of reflections and going throw a process of 'awakening' and seeing the previously unseen and misunderstood

    • Your emotional and psychological past traumas that have not been addressed or considered have led to the breakdown of this relationship and may lead to breakdowns in the future with other partners

    • Responsibility and blame have to walk together through resolution of conflict

    • Conflict can be the best thing that two people can experience 

    • How to improve your communication and decision making in relationships in general and with your ex, especially around child-care

    • To make sure you are not hurting your children in the process of separation and subsequent co-parenting   

    • And more...

  • Grow With The Flow

    Design your program as you go, based on your needs and interests as they arise.
     
    This Program is for those who want to learn and grow in a more natural, unstructured way, the aim is to flow through knowledge as discussions and questions arise. Sessions will vary depending on what the client brings in as situations or topics they want to discuss and learn more about.

    This program will help you explore all the things that come up for you as questions, struggles, curiosities etc. Each session can focus on your experiences or topics you want to learn about. For instance 

    • You may want to learn about yourself as a sexual being

    • You may want to learn about open relationships or BDSM

    • You may wish to reflect on a date you've been on, or are going to

    • You may choose to explore experiences in relationships that have left you perplexed

    • You may wonder what can you do to expand on your sexual experience and enrich your intimate life

    • You may wish to learn techniques how to overcome difficulty with confidence

    • You may wish to learn how to be a better lover and partner

    • You may choose to discuss masturbation, staying present during sex, or how to increase the pleasure and passion with partners  

    • And more...

Book or Inquire

If you are interested in embarking on a personal growth journey to more happiness and pleasure you can simply request your free introductory call now. Or you can book a session or a package.

Save £50 for each successful referral you make

We’re thrilled to share that LIFESEXPERTS has a brand new referral program. When you let a friend know about our one-to-one service and they become a client, you’ll both get £50 off your purchase of any of the packages. Spread the word to help your friends benefit from the opportunity to explore and grow personally as you already are. 

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