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Please, Don't Yuck On My Yum! On The Path To Wild, Passionate and Beautiful Intimacy

"Don't yuck on my yum" is an expression that refers to the act of judging or disapproving of someone else's interests, particularly when it comes to their sexual preferences. The phrase is often used to remind people to respect others' choices and to refrain from imposing their own values and beliefs on others.

Here are seven reasons why it's not a good idea to judge people's interests, and especially so when it comes to your partner's sexual interests:

  1. It is judgemental and sex-negative to do. When you judge someone for their sexual interests, you are essentially saying that their desires are not normal or acceptable. This can create a negative and oppressive environment, where people feel ashamed or guilty for their desires and may be less likely to express them.

  2. It will signal to your partner that you're not 'safe' to share with. When you judge your partner's sexual interests, you send the message that they cannot trust you with their most intimate thoughts and desires. This can create a barrier in your relationship, as your partner may be less likely to open up to you in the future.

  3. It may push them away emotionally if they feel judged or shamed. When people feel judged or shamed for their desires, it can cause them to withdraw emotionally and become distant from their partner. This can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, which can ultimately damage the relationship.

  4. Sexuality and sexual fantasies are unique to each person, safe, open and accepting discussions are a must for healthy relationships. Everyone's sexuality is different, and it is important to respect that. By judging your partner's desires, you are not only invalidating them but also preventing healthy discussions. This can lead to misunderstandings and lack of trust in your relationship.

  5. It can damage your relationship. When you judge your partner's interests, you are essentially saying that you do not accept them for who they are. This can create a rift in your relationship and make it difficult for you to connect emotionally.

  6. It shows immaturity and close-mindedness. When you judge someone for their desires, you are essentially saying that you are not open to new ideas and perspectives. This can be a sign of immaturity and close-mindedness, which can be detrimental to any relationship.

  7. It is selfish and inconsiderate. When you judge your partner's desires, you are only thinking about yourself and your own feelings. This is selfish and inconsiderate, as it fails to take into account your partner's feelings and experiences.

It's important to acknowledge that being non-judgmental and offering a safe space for your partner to share their desires and interests is not easy for most people. For many, it can be a personal growth journey that requires awareness building, healing old wounds, and skills building. It can be challenging to let go of past experiences, cultural conditioning, and societal expectations that shape our perceptions and attitudes towards sex and sexuality.

It's not uncommon for people to need external support as they embark on this journey. A professional specialising in sex and relationships can help with awareness building and healing old wounds. They can also provide guidance and support as you build the skills needed to be a safe, non-judgmental, and accepting partner. This personal growth journey can be transformative for your relationship and can lead to deeper intimacy and understanding. Remember, there's no shame in seeking help, it's a sign of strength and willingness to improve yourself and your relationship.

If you struggle to communicate about sex and want to find support in improving your intimate relationships, it's important to reach out for help. At LIFESEXPERTS, we offer a free 30-minute discovery call to help you explore your needs and goals. During this call, we will discuss what brings you to this growth journey, and assess whether we are a good fit to work together. To book your free discovery call, click here

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