Sessions That Pay Off Financially (Literally): The Unexpected Benefits My Clients Get Beyond Sex & Relationships

When people come to work with me, it’s usually because something in their intimate or relational world isn’t working — a desire for better communication, a need to reconnect with pleasure, a long-standing dynamic that’s become painful or unsustainable. But as many of my clients quickly discover, the impact of our work rarely stays in that narrow lane. Because when someone begins to see themselves more clearly, when they start to truly feel their worth and agency, it spills — beautifully, necessarily — into every area of life. And sometimes, yes, it even spills into their finances.

Have you heard the quote that if your accountant is costing you money, rather than saving and making you money - you should change them?

Well, I'm NOT an accountant or a financial advisor, nor am I a lawyer, but I definitely am a nerd - and that has made and saved my clients money!

The Ripple Effect

While the focus of my expertise is sex and relationships, clients sometimes bring topics and situations to sessions that may not be so related to these topics, but they want to air their concerns or feelings and thoughts — be it business partnerships, contract negotiations, investments, mortgage structures — enter the room. And because I happen to be someone who reads widely, learns constantly, and finds joy in understanding the practicalities of how life works (yes, including intellectual property law and financial independence strategies), I offer to share what I know when it’s relevant and if I am asked. And the truth is, in many cases, this has directly saved or made my clients thousands — sometimes tens of thousands — of pounds. Below are a few examples that illustrate what I mean. These are not marketing stories, please don't take this as an invitation to seek me out for advice on topics outside sex and relationships. But these are real humans, with real lives, who happened to benefit from our sessions in ways beyond the expected.

Underpaid and Undervalued: Reclaiming Financial Worth

One of my female clients had been working under the label of “freelancer” for years, but the reality was that she was operating as a full-time service provider for a single company that never treated her as an actual business owner.

She charged far less than market value and had internalised years of messaging — both societal and personal — that told her she wasn’t worth more and she couldn't do any better. As our work unfolded, she began to reconnect with her own sense of value, and eventually I gave her a piece of homework: go back and calculate what you should have been paid over the past 7 or 8 years, had you charged even the industry minimum. She came back shocked.

The number she arrived at was staggering — more than £20,000 per year in underpayment. That realisation sparked a powerful chain reaction. She started adjusting her rates, seeking her own clients, and slowly restructuring her work life to match the person she had become. It wasn’t magic. It was the fruit of inner work — and the courage to act on it.

Avoiding a Costly Divorce: One Crucial Conversation

In another case, a male client who was in the midst of a divorce opened up about fears around the financial split. He also had difficult feelings about it, as he has been saving and investing strategically while also paying for his wife's further education and supporting her expensive hobbies while she's been incurring debt and never saving. Both of them were highly educated, well paid and also child-free; living in the dream house he's paid a much bigger portion for the mortgage off.

He was well-advised — or so we thought. Accountants, lawyers, spreadsheets — everything seemed covered. Until we had a conversation in which I asked, quite simply, whether he had taken into account the division of liabilities, not just assets. He paused. It hadn’t occurred to him. Nor, apparently, to any of his professional advisors. And yet, this detail mattered enormously!

Let me explain.

When a couple separates and begins dividing their wealth, it's important to understand that what’s being split isn't just assets (things of value you own — like houses, savings, investments, or businesses) but also liabilities (debts and financial obligations — like loans, credit card balances, or mortgages). Many people only focus on the assets, assuming the goal is to divide what they’ve built together. But if one partner has accumulated significant debt in their name, that’s part of the equation too. Failing to consider liabilities can lead to an unfair settlement where one person walks away with more value and less debt, while the other is left carrying a financial burden they didn’t plan for. Understanding this — and bringing it into the conversation early — can save you from costly mistakes and deeply unfair outcomes.

Now, I am not a lawyer, but I am a law nerd. And sadly, I've also had the misfortune of paying one particular lawyer huge hourly rates to only find that his self-esteem about ''having been a lawyer and in the industry for over 20years'' (direct quote) means fuck all, when he's not up to date with legislation I've already read up on. And damn, he had the audacity to be rude and demeaning to me for challenging their advice.

You read up on the legislation and challenged him?

Yes... because I needed to understand it and I do read legal texts for fun, as I find it fascinating.

So, anyhow, back to my client - all his fancy lawyers and accountants have NOT been doing their job right - and somehow by sheer luck I saved this client tens of thousands of pounds, if not hundreds of thousands (I can't be sure, but at Speculation Station I can theorise it feasable because investments and company shares made it in his portfolio).

Compound Interest and Confidence: The Beginners Who Became Investors

Three of my clients — all from different walks of life — began investing after speaking to me about investments in our sessions. Not because I gave them financial advice, but because I explained things in simple terms and pointed them to simple, solid resources and encouraged them to learn how their money could work for them.

What's the value of this guidance?

Simple, if each of them opened a stocks and shares ISA and deposited £5,000 now, and did nothing more, but left alone for 10 years, that initial investment could earn them roughly £6,098.20 at a modest 8% interest rate — and potentially £8,535.21 if the average historical rate of 10% (based on the S&P 500) held steady. That’s without doing anything — just the power of compound interest (which I had to explain to each of them in simple terms), working in the background. Meanwhile, if that same money sat in a standard savings account, it would quietly erode under inflation.

Usually, sessions with me will take you to your dream-life full of intimate and romantic fulfilment, and sometimes it results in earning money because you understand how to make your money work for you. It all depends on what you bring into the room.

The Mortgage Trap: Restructuring Payments to Save Thousands

Another client, a young woman navigating home ownership with her partner, mentioned she had been paying her mortgage at a 7% interest rate for the past year since they bought the house. She shared that while they had paid £20,000 toward the mortgage, only £2,000 of that had actually reduced the principal loan. The rest had gone to interest. Yes, £18k for interest alone.

Now, me being a financial nerd - this led us into a conversation about how mortgage interest is calculated, how timing and frequency of payments can impact the split between interest and principal, and what questions she might want to ask her mortgage advisor. I encouraged her to dig into her documents and find out if she could structure her payments differently — potentially allowing more of her money to reduce the loan amount, not just feed the bank. Just that one shift — if she follows through — would save her tens of thousands over the life of her mortgage, not to mention cut years off her payment schedule.

Business Boundaries: Structuring Partnerships to Prevent Future Loss

Since I work with businesses too and consult on relationships at work I get to see the corporate drama of relationships too. So there are the clients who come in with business woes — murky agreements with collaborators, no clarity on intellectual property, handshake deals that feel shaky but hard to unravel. I’ve had many of these conversations, and while I don’t act as legal counsel, I do have a nerd-strong foundation in intellectual property and contract law, and I’m not shy about sharing what I know - and then sending them off to seek the dedicated experts.

One client was on the verge of signing a vague profit-sharing deal that had no written terms for who owned what. Another was mid-way through building a digital product with a partner but had no clarity on ownership or licensing. In both cases — and others — we explored not only the emotional and relational dynamics of their partnerships but also how to structure their agreements to reflect reality, protect their work, and reduce the likelihood of future conflict.

These kinds of preventative conversations — often overlooked in traditional therapy — have spared my clients legal battles, broken trust, and potentially tens of thousands of pounds in lost income or IP.

This is what I mean when I say that having sessions with me is often bigger than sex or relationships — though those are incredibly important and central, too. When you start to value yourself, when you become someone who shows up for yourself consistently, the rest of your life starts to change. You notice things you used to overlook. You question systems that once intimidated you. You begin to act in ways that honour your time, your energy, and your potential.

So if you’re reading this and wondering whether it’s “worth it” to work on yourself with me, to invest in sessions, to take a deeper look — I’ll say this: I’ve seen my sessions pay off in emotional clarity and healing, sexual empowerment, relational transformation… and in cold, hard cash - often enough that it deserves to be named.

If you’re ready to begin, or simply curious to see if I’m the right fit for you — you’re welcome to get in touch and see if I might be the right professional for you.

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