There is a phrase people often lean on when they feel torn between staying and leaving—better the devil you know than the devil you don’t. It sounds practical, even wise on the surface, as if it reflects a mature understanding of risk, disappointment, and the unpredictability of life. And yet, in my work, I have seen how often this belief does not protect people, but rather keeps them anchored in situations that slowly drain them—relationships that diminish them, workplaces t

This is where many people leave therapy or coaching too early. They assume they have reached the destination, unaware that what they have reached is a transitional stage rather than the endpoint itself. What they cannot yet see is that the crutches, while life-saving, are still evidence of an injury that has not fully healed — and that remaining in this middle space often sets the sta

You have likely Googled the causes of erectile dysfunction, watched YouTube videos explaining the mechanics of erections, read articles about blood flow and testosterone, and listened to confident professionals telling you how to “fix” the problem through pelvic floor exercises, supplements, lifestyle changes, or hormone optimisation.

You can speak up in a meeting when your colleague is being dismissed. You can argue your sibling’s case, defend a stranger on the internet, advocate fiercely for your child or client or partner—and mean every word. But when it comes to your own needs, wants, feelings… your throat closes. Your inner monologue spins with doubt. You freeze. You placate. You shrink.